As the boys grew up, Esau became a skillful hunter, a man who lived in the open;
whereas Jacob was a simple man, who kept to his tents. Isaac preferred Esau, because he
was fond of game; but Rebekah preferred Jacob. Once, when Jacob was cooking a stew, Esau
came in from the open, famished. He said to Jacob, "Let me gulp down some of that red
stuff; I'm starving." (That is why he was called Edom.) But Jacob replied, "First give
me your birthright in exchange for it." "Look," Esau said, "I'm on the point of dying,
what good will any birthright do me?" But Jacob insisted, "Swear to me first!" So he
sold Jacob his birthright under oath. Jacob then gave him some bread and the lentil
stew; and Esau cared little for his birthright.
This Old Testament story holds significant meaning for all of us. There is the
obvious conflict within the family of two brothers who are very different personality
types, parents who show partiality toward each of their favorite sons and the way that
God allows events to happen as He relates to each of the characters involved. Exploring
both the surface story and the deeper implications it has as it relates to our own lives,
we can hopefully derive some deeper meaning which God working through the author
intends.
On the surface, we see a story of rivalry that is typical even in modern times, yet
we can also look to some valuable truths that are revealed about how God sees our
personal motives and actions through the characters of Jacob and Esau. Gaining an
understanding of the characters, their motives and the overall big picture of God's plan,
we can better find some spiritual lessons of our own life.
Jacob was the third link in God's plan of the patriarchs. In Gn 25:23, the Lord
tells Jacob's mother, Rebekah, that she has twins. The Lord tells her that the younger
one will overtake the second. The favoritism of the children shows weakness on the part
of the parents that can contribute in a large part to the discord between Jacob and
Esau. It is no surprise that when parents are in conflict, the entire peace of the
family is in jeopardy. Jacob's name means "Grabber." Possibly this
shows how he and Esau were in competition from the start. This seems appropriate for two
brothers in a small family and their sibling rivalry is understandable in light of the
benefits derived from being born first. Jacob's personality was so different from Esau's
that they seem like natural opposites who would likely be in constant competition even if
they weren't in the same family. Jacob is a thoughtful homebody who carefully schemes to
get what he wants, while his older brother Esau is know to be a practical man of action,
a hunter who provided the family with food and thought more of the present than the
future. Esau was loved and praised for his ability to bring dinner home often. Maybe he
did not think beyond the daily routine and the thanks he received from his father.
Because Esau was hungry, he wasn't willing to think about anything else but
fulfilling his immediate need, even if it meant changing the events of his future. The
here and now was much more important to him. He saw only the small window of the present
and lacked the focus and energy to see the big picture. Jacob knew this about his
brother and probably looked for the opportunity to catch him at a weak moment. When the
time came, Jacob used his brother's weakness for immediate gratification to grab for
himself something which would secure his own future. Here we see the significance of his
name.
Jacob accomplished many great things in his life. He was the father of the twelve
tribes of Israel, the third patriarch, hard-working, and died very wealthy.
Unfortunately, Jacob relied on his own instincts when trouble came his way, rather than
going to God. He also had a large attachment to material possessions as evidenced by the
amount of property he owned and gave to his sons.
Jacob married Leah and Rachel. Soon after growing up, he went to live with his Uncle
Laban. He immediately fell in love with Laban's daughter, Rachel. He worked seven years
to have her. The next morning, after the wedding, Jacob awoke to find not Rachel, but
her older sister Leah next to him. He was outraged, but Laban consented to let him marry
Rachel at the end of the week if he promised to work seven more years.
This shows how Jacob lived up to his name, "Grabber." Once he had his mind fixed on
something, whether it be his brother's birthright, the love of his life, or most
importantly, God, he grabbed hold and would not let go. If only we could have the same
zeal he had, maybe then there wouldn't be some many people in the world content with
second best. If a kid does not make the basketball team at school, he should not go home
discouraged, he should be out practicing every single day so that when the next chance
comes around he will not only be on the team, but the best on the team. What have we
done today to make ourselves the very best at whatever we do grabbing hold of our
future?
Esau was the classic dumb jock. He was excellent in hunting and is known for his
skill in archery. Unfortunately, he did not necessarily think through every decision.
He traded the head of the clan, and twice his brother's share of property for a single
meal. The meal wasn't even the hearty stew he expected. It was a piece of bread and a
bowl of lentils that gave him about ten minutes pleasure.
The most amazing thing that Esau was able to do was to forgive after being angry and
holding a grudge. It is fine to be angry. Our Lord Jesus got very angry in the Temple.
But, anger does not have to constitute sin. Esau forgave Jacob when he returned from
Laban, and even threw his arms around him and kissed him. This is the attitude God wants
us to have toward those to whom we have a grudge. Life is too short to have grudges.
How many times have we missed out on fantastic friendships because we refused to speak or
deal with that person. If we can change, can't others as well?
God allows certain things to happen for different reasons, but we still have free
will. Our God is so loving that he lets us learn the hard way. We are responsible for
the choices we make and we are held accountable for them. The last word on Esau is that
we must consider the consequences of our actions before we act on them. The old saying,
"look before you leap" is a lesson that Esau just never seemed to quite grasp.
The entire birthright story and the lives of Jacob and Esau can hold many life
lessons for us. We have learned that deception merits nothing but pain and that
decisions should be thought through before acted upon. Our security does not lie in the
accumulation of goods. I believe that the Jewish people especially appreciated this
story because it showed ordinary people doing extraordinary things with God's assistance.
St. Paul refers to this story in Hebrews 12:16 "Watch out that no one becomes involved
in sexual sin or becomes careless about God as Esau did: he traded his rights as the
oldest son for a single meal. And afterwards, when he wanted those rights back again, it
was too late, even though he wept bitter tears of repentance. So remember, and be
careful."
"Lord God, your chosen people have left us some important life lessons. These
lessons do not have to be learned the hard way, because we have the examples of those who
have gone before us. Let us learn from their experience and use it to make a difference
in our own lives. We ask this in Jesus' name, Amen."
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